Never be ashamed to say that you are sorry; you need only be ashamed if you haven’t the courage to muster an apology. All too often, we become overburdened and embarrassed by the idea that we have committed a transgression against someone, and are worried that the other person will think less of us. However, we would not be human if we did not err from time to time. Although it may seem uncomfortable to tell someone you are sorry, the situation will undoubtedly become more uncomfortable if you remain silent.
Everyone—children, friends, co-workers, lovers, family— should receive an appropriate apology, no matter how difficult it may seem. Realizing that an apology is necessary shows the other person that you are thinking of them, and placing their needs before your own discomfort. Remembering this can help you to overcome any initial discomfort. What recipient of an apology wouldn’t be flattered to know that you think so highly of them as to offer an “I’m sorry?” However, offering an apology also shows that you value yourself, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
One of the most important lessons that you can teach your children is how to render an appropriate and timely apology. Spend time talking to them about the importance of the words “I’m sorry” and discuss strategies for overcoming any fears that they may have offended someone else. In doing so, you will teach your children to always consider the needs of other people, while also teaching them to value themselves. Although it may seem difficult at first, your children will quickly learn that an appropriate apology will give them no cause for shame.