Holiday cards need not be a source of frustration for families in transition, nor a reminder of what was. This is an opportunity to celebrate what is!
A holiday newsletter (not my favorite) should be a short, upbeat and interesting story with proper grammar. Resist sermonizing, complaining, or bragging. Your divorce is not a newsletter topic.
If you want to subtly acknowledge your change in marital status send a picture with just you and the children, dogs, etc., let the children help choose the photos and do the artwork. Sign the card with your first names in order of appearance. It is tacky to have your names printed on the card.
The question always comes up about who should receive holiday cards. I recommend casting your nets and starting from the outside edge. By this I mean send first to those who live the farthest away or at least don’t see you as often, second to those with whom you have a personal connection and last to those who send you a card.
Don’t forget the children will need to send cards to their teachers and special friends. Perhaps you should not send a picture card to your ex’s parents. Remember always to consider your audience.
If you have a new address make the card serve two purposes. Be creative, upbeat, and classy. Everyone will wonder why your ex was so stupid to lose you!
A few things to remember when addressing your envelopes:
• If you retain your ex’s last name, “Mrs. John Smith” becomes “Mrs. Mildred Smith”.
• A widow may still use, “Mrs. John Smith.”
• Remember to include your return address on either the top front left corner (Post Office preference) or on the back flap of the envelope (Traditional).